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Playing mummies and daddies.
A profile a few months ago in a Sunday newspaper about a well known actor whose longstanding relationship with another man had suddenly excited media interest, was not especially homophobic but did propagate quite a few straight myths about such relationships.

One of the ones which stood out most was the well known fact, as the writer put it, that in a gay relationship one of the partners always plays the role of "Mrs" It went on to conjure up images of several 'out' celebrities alive and dead dusting around in their pink pinnies.

As a young man living in a country which told me I was a criminal for some of the things I did in what to me was my own private live, the hardest thing was to see beyond stereotypes. One of my colleagues at work had everyone in fits of laughter as he passed on tit bits about the way the queer hairdresser his wife worked with and his partner behaved.

The 'husband' was very butch, working in a hardware shop it seemed while wifey slaved away with the curling tongues. 'He' didn't like 'her' taste in curtains, 'she' liked candlelit suppers for a few select friends, 'He' preferred a quickie in the cottage opposite the railway station. They provided my colleague with endless fun. Funny though. while I was hiding my sexuality for fear of going to prison, I had feelings about his too. He just seemed too interested in the affairs of Mr and Mrs Queer. talking about it would however have been unthinkable.

I'm coming up to the fifteenth year of my current relationship and at no time have either of us played a 'Mrs' role. I also have to say that in most other longstanding gay relationships I have seen, that statement would also be true. It may be I have moved in the wrong circles and I'm sure that imitations of straight marriages do exist, it's just that I've rarely found them.

The division of domestic tasks seem to just happen. Whoever is at home first, cooks. If the floors needs a touch of the shake and vacs, it gets it from whoever feels like it. Bed making is pretty simple with duvets and green plants remove the need for flower arranging. I am better than my partner at fixing the car or plumbing but that doesn't affect the situation vis a vie sexual roles.

I think the writer of the profile I read must have a very strange idea of straight marriage as it exists these days. For a start, it is no longer the normal way for people to live. Less than half of households in the UK are stereotypical married straights. Ok then it's 52% but it falls every year and figures are always years out of date.

Women, even straight ones, are less and less satisfied with the traditional straight man. They want to get on top and screw him and around the house they are being expected to do the things only their mother was supposed to do. If you want to find men playing the 'Mrs' role, look inside straight relationships, not the gay ones.

Of course looking at the beer bellied, twenty plus single straight guys having fun at Magaluf with their 'mates', you would never guess the fate that awaits them but await them it does. The pinny may not be pink but it emasculates just the same.
 
 

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