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In the past I've met guys through small ads in gay magazines, in pubs, in cottages and on the street. Cottages were for the most part the quickest but now councils have swept most of them away, the internet seems to be the most effective way of meeting.

Pubs are OK but when you are older, a lot of guys who may well fancy you are reluctant to be seen talking to you in case their friends pull their legs about fancying wrinklies. I've already discussed this in an article written some years ago and reproduced in the 'So you're still around' section of this web site.( Also see article All Bar None)

So, here goes, I thought, try the internet.

I must say I was suprised. I put an ad on the Excite site which was quite honest about age etc and replies flooded in, some fourteen in three days. Many I ruled out straight away. A couple came from overseas, one offering to visit me if I paid his air fare, another invited me to partake of his very reasonable priced services if I visited Calcutta.

Some obviously had not read the ad and didn't fit what I was looking for at all.

I had the idea of setting up a very small web site just containing photographs of me, fully dressed I have to say, except one, which was a simple bottom shot. I found the best way was to refer everyone who wrote to the web site and if they liked what they saw to get back to me with a photo of themselves.

Some never came. Fine, no problem. Others came back but were very reluctant to give details of themselves or supply a photo. I did meet one of these guys and the reason for not supplying a photograph became obvious and although he was a decent fellow, it didn't work.

Lot's of guys did come back and did supply photographs and I exchanged E:Mails with them and eventually phone numbers. I spoke to several on the phone and yes they were keen to meet. But then silence from them.

That is one thing which was hard to sort out. I can understand that there are people out there who get turned on by exchanging messages but going as far as agreeing to a meeting and then disappearing seems a waste of everyone's time. 

A few small tips. E:Mails with addresses of a 'normal' ISP like Virgin, Demon, Freeserve are more likely to be genuine than those using a Hotmail or Excite address. Those who come on too fast in their first E:Mail nearly always turn out to be duds.

However from the process I have learned a lot. First, no photo, no deal. Of course photo's can lie, but in my experience guys I did end up meeting did supply genuine pictures. Secondly, be honest in your own replies and you are more likely to get honesty back. Not always, I'll grant you, but mostly.

And the guys I have met so far ? Very satisfactory. Of course even good sex can just be a one off, but slowly I am building a small group of occasional partners.

Other tips ? Well your own photograph on the advert increases the number of replies. You don't need anything too sexy, just a mug shot will do. Secondly if you use Excite use the adult section and the normal dating section. The adult section allows more explicit descriptions of what you are looking for and more explicit photos.

I put a bottom shot there and got E:Mails from all over the world saying how sexy the writers found it even if they couldn't meet up. Quite flattering when you are my age.

Another tip, don't be over specific. One of the most satisfactory guys turned out not really to fit the description I gave at all but was probably the sexiest of the lot.

Oh and take care, for example I never give a phone number until late on and only give an address at the very last moment. I also make sure someone else knows what I am doing. 

Have fun.

April 2000

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